A person will be in heaven based on their relationship to the Gospel of Jesus Christ, not because of excuses or mitigating circumstances. God is a righteous judge and He will not be fooled by anyone, and He is especially protective of children, as Jesus said, "but whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to stumble , it would be better for him to have a heavy millstone hung around his neck, and to be drowned in the depth of the sea." (Matt 18:6)  

However, the punishment of evildoers is completely for God to sort out, not us. Part of receiving God's healing for what has been done to us is the ability to forgive the offending person. The Bible says,

But I say to you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you,  so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven;  (Matt 5:44-45)

So, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience; bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint against anyone; just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you.  (Col 3:12-13)

Secular counseling might be OK if you can't find a Christian counselor, but you should always try to find a Christian first.