|FAQ ID # 6206|
|Last Update : 2008/07/14
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|I know that we should forgive our neighbor unconditional, but what if that person who were forgiving is unrepentive? Is it wrong to completely ignore and cut all strings with the person even if that person is family?|
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|Sometimes it is necessary to maintain safe and healthy boundaries with people who are unrepentant of behavior that is hurtful and/or harmful to you and those around you. This can be difficult and may be misconstrued as unforgiveness; thus, it is important to understand what forgiveness is from a Biblical perspective.
It is imperative to know what forgiveness is NOT... It is NOT ignoring, disregarding, tolerating, excusing, overlooking, or pretending it didn't happen. When we forgive, we are not saying that what was done to us was alright.
Forgiveness is a deliberate choice NOT to judge, condemn, or hold someone who has wronged you guilty any longer. It means that you are dropping all charges!
- To show mercy or compassion
- To cancel an obligation such as a debt
- To pardon, exonerate, excuse
- To leave alone or abandon
We forgive because we are forgiven. Jesus said, "If you forgive others for their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive your transgressions." - Mt 6:14-15
"Put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience; bearing with one another; and forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint against anyone; just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you." - Col 3:12-13
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